With Mother's Day right around the corner - this Sunday, May 8 in case you forgot - you might be racking your brain to come up with a good idea for mom, especially if she's getting a little older and "already has everything she needs" (her words, not yours).
Below are a few ideas from Concordia, some traditional and a couple outside the box. If you have one to add to the list, put it in a comment!
1. Massage/Spa Day: A day of pampering, or even just 60 minutes of pampering, is a wonderful gift for most older moms. There are certain massage therapists who specialize in senior massage, so be sure to ask when making the appointment. Keep in mind there are certain health conditions that may disqualify mom from getting a massage - blood pressure, heart disease, recent surgery or fractures and other conditions. Also, if possible, go to a certified massage therapist (if your state certifies the field), as that's the only way to truly verify that the individual has had formal training.
2. Housekeeping Services: What's better for a mom who may have vacuumed the carpet literally 1500 times in her life than a month of weekly housekeeping services? Depending on where you live the prices vary greatly, so make sure to do your homework. Often, home care companies like Concordia Visiting Nurses (CVN) offer housekeeping services for reasonable rates, and more often than not, their employees are better screened so you can trust the individual you're letting into mom's house. CVN hourly housekeeping rates are about $19 per hour and anyone, regardless of age, can use the service.
3. Gardening: For some moms, getting older means they have had to sacrifice planting a garden for the sake of their knees or backs. Take a weekend to go to the local nursery, get your flowers/seeds/mulch/etc, prepare the ground and plant including mom in each step that she's able to help out with. If she has a garden already, spend a day weeding, pruning and beautifying it with her.
4. Brunch or Dinner: Sure, this suggestion goes without saying, but if mom doesn't get around too well keep in mind accessibility issues at the restaurant you choose. Everyone will be out to eat on Mother's Day, so try to plan on going to a place that doesn't squeeze you in like sardines and has a handicap ramp or only a couple steps.
5. Scrapbooking/Biography: If mom's getting up in age, odds are she has hundreds of stories and thousands of photos worth chronicling - use Mother's Day as an excuse to get some of them in order. Make a photo book together, put some of her stories to paper or better yet, combine the two and start a biography of sorts, using the photos as illustrations to the stories.
As we've said before, the one gift that should never be overlooked is the gift of spending time with your senior loved ones. It is not uncommon for seniors to get lonely, especially around the holidays. For many, quality time with those they love is worth more than anything you can think about buying or making.
Concordia Lutheran Ministries is one of only nine CARF-CCAC accredited Aging Services Networks in the world and recipient of the inaugural Pennsylvania Department of Aging Excellence in Quality Care Award. As one of the largest, most financially secure senior care providers in the country, the organization serves over 20,000 people in the western PA region annually. Concordia offers a lifetime continuum of care that includes adult day services, home care, hospice, medical and rehabilitation services, memory support, personal care, respite care, retirement living, skilled nursing, and medical equipment capabilities.